One of the most perverse problems in an autistic individual’s life is the threat of sexual abuse. This can come in the form of rape or simply be in an abusive relationship. Because autistic people spend much of their lives feeling different and left out, they often enjoy sexual experiences for one reason: it puts them on a playing field equal to others. It is very easy for this to become a controlling part of a relationship.

The most important thing to remember is that autistic people experience sexuality in much of the same way that others do, no matter how highly functioning they may be. Parents should teach their child about sexuality from an early age in order to prevent sexual abuse from happening.

The most valuable command that anyone can learn in relationship to sexuality is No.Teaching this to even children can be very useful. In this respect, treat your autistic child as no different than you would another child teach him or her the parts of the body from a young age and be very clear, as the child matures, about what happens during puberty and what kinds of behaviors are appropriate and inappropriate.

Be sure that your child understands the differences between good touches and bad touches. This can be extremely difficult for autistic children who are sensitive to touch in general. It may be helpful to label zones on the body where no one should touch without permission.

Also make sure that as your autistic child grows into an adult, he or she understands what rape is and what to do if this happens. As many autistic children are hands-on learners, it may be best to role-play some potentially dangerous situations. If your child communicates non-verbally, teach him or her clear signs to show a person to stop what they are doing.

Autistic people can often not understand that others have their own thoughts and emotions they believe that everyone thinks and feels what they do. Because of this, many are shocked to find that bad people in the world will take advantage of sexual situations. You may need to explain to an autistic individual what kinds of dress and conduct are appropriate in public so that he or she is not unknowingly attracting sexual attention.

You child should learn to respect his or her body and understand that others need to respect it as well. This is only possible if parents and educators teach autistic children about their bodies from a young age. By learning how to stop sexual abuse, you can keep you children, autistic or not, safe from predators.

Hair loss affects millions of men and women, both young and old. It can decrease self-esteem and confidence, and limit the ability to enjoy life to the fullest. Persons balding at a young age may feel deprived of an essential element of their youth. This feeling is created and affirmed by cultures all over the world. Images on television, in the movies and on print ads, constantly reinforce the association between a youthful appearance, sexuality, and a full head of hair.

Balding affects people in different ways, but certain emotional reactions seem to be shared by many.

The most common concern that people have when they begin to lose their hair is that they will be less attractive to the opposite sex. The interesting thing is that this is often only the view of the person that is balding and not that person?s partner. The spouse or friend of those experiencing hair loss commonly state that the only thing that bothers them is that it makes their partner depressed. The balding does not bother them per se.

It is interesting that women sometimes express that they want their spouses to look good for the wedding pictures, but once married, they become far less concerned about their spouse?s hair. In fact, when a married man suddenly becomes interested in having a hair transplant, we have seen the spouse become suspicious of extra-marital interests and even object to the husband having the procedure.

Hair loss is a universal marker for aging, with one?s mane gradually diminishing over time. Your body slowly changes as well, with more sagging and wrinkles and ones muscle mass decreasing. However, hair loss hair can also occur suddenly at a young age, making you appear much older than you actually are.

A practical concern with looking older is that the person may not be as competitive in the work force. Unfortunately, studies have shown that this is a real phenomenon. When employers are screening job applicants, all other things being equal, those with hair are viewed more favorably than those who are bald.

People experiencing hair loss complain that the way they look does not fit with their own image of themselves. This occurs when someone begins to lose hair early i.e., in their late teens or twenties, but it is as much a problem when someone has had a full-head of hair for years (and is used to receiving compliments about their hair) and then their hair thins unexpectedly in middle age.

Another aspect of balding is that people feel a loss of control. Hair is one of the few body parts that you can actually manipulate yourself. You can grow hair long, cut if off, you can wave it, dye it, or pull it back in a pony-tail. It serves as a form of self-expression. As people start to lose this form of self-expression, they can become depressed and withdrawn. But not everyone responds this way. People react very differently to their hair loss, with some considering it only a minor nuisance and others finding it so debilitating that they won?t be seen in public without their head covered.

One of the things that makes going bald difficult is that, for some reason, people feel that commenting or joking about hair loss is “fair game” when they wouldn?t dare mention that someone had bad skin, or had a limp. I often point out to patients, that just because people chose to comment about thinning hair, doesn?t mean they are judging that person or really care much about it. It just seems to be a socially acceptable thing to mention.

Women seem to believe that female hair loss is less acceptable than hair loss in men. While this may be true, the vast majority of women have hair loss in a pattern that can be easily camouflaged. Women are often reassured when they realize that about 40% of women experience hair loss over their lifetime, but it is to such a small degree that it is rarely recognized by others.

The important things to remember are that hair loss is very common, it is much more acceptable with age, and it is generally less important to other people than the person experiencing hair loss thinks. That said it is not unreasonable to be upset about going bald. Fortunately, for those who are bothered by their hair loss, there are now excellent medications to prevent hair loss and excellent surgical treatments to restore hair once it is gone.

In seeking treatment for their hair loss, younger men often consider a surgical option first. They shun the idea of having to take a medication “for life” and think that surgery will be a permanent solution to their problem; often not realizing that having surgery at a young age may create far more problems than it will correct. Unfortunately, these young people, in a panic, may fall prey to unscrupulous physicians whose practices are built on “selling” hair transplants to those in an emotionally fragile state.

It is the responsibility of the physician to make sure that an emotionally distraught patient is making informed choices and understands the long-term implications of any treatment option – especially surgery. In the younger patient, it is often prudent to slow down the decision making process. This can be accomplished with multiple consultations, stressing the importance of drug therapy and, when appropriate, getting parents or other significant persons involved. The doctor should allow the patient to reflect on the situation and the decisions involved – and should never rush to operate.

Older patients are often more deliberate about the decision to undergo hair transplant surgery. Many have considered the procedure for some time, and understand the challenges of making emotionally charged decisions, getting accurate information and finding a doctor they trust. They often research their options more thoroughly. Outsides factors may finally tip the balance in favor of having surgical hair restoration. These factors may include a search for a new job, a divorce, or simply the availability of financial resources. Alternatively, it may reflect the indulgence of a confident, successful person doing something extra for himself.

When hair loss becomes an obsession, it is rare that either medical treatments or surgery will satisfy the patient?s need for perfection. In situations where the emotional reaction far exceeds the degree of hair loss or where the expectations of treatment is more than can be achieved with existing technology, psychological counseling is in order.

Although each individuals motives may vary, it is not unreasonable for people at any age to want to improve their appearance, and it is hard to deny the great impact that hair plays in this regard. However, a decision to proceed with hair restoration should be made with a clear head, a specific objective and with as much factual information as possible.

Do you know how to have spectacular prolonged orgasms every time you have sex? After you read this article, you will!

1. Bounteous Breath

Breath is basic. You don’t have to remember any complicated esoteric formulas or worry if you’re doing it wrong. You certainly won’t forget to do it at all. Breath happens. And, if you want your orgasms to expand, all you need to do is enhance whatever your breath is already doing. Just do a little more. Breathe a little faster, draw it in a little deeper, let it out a bit longer, or open your chest and belly more. Enhance your breathing and you’ll augment your arousal and your climax will be bigger and better.

2. Celebration of Sounds

Sound inhibition is the enemy of freeing your orgasm, so to escalate your experience, open your mouth and let the sounds out. You don’t have to raise the roof or frighten the horses, just don’t be silent. Freeing your sound is an important key to experiencing expanded sexuality.

Start small by making your breath audible. Play with making soft, sexy sounds as you proceed through your arousal journey. Expand your sound repertoire as you become more comfortable with your sound ability. Moan, coo, sigh and whimper and you’ll enhance your experience (and your partners’, too!) Allow yourself to have fun releasing your soundtrack of pleasure.

Use sound (and breath, of course) when you start coming and just don’t stop. Let sound roll out of your open mouth as the orgasmic wave moves through you. When you’re climaxing, keep your sounds going and your orgasm will keep on going, too!

3. Shake Your Booty

Rocking your hips is the basic mammal mating motion. Utilize that ancient pathway and pump your pelvis! Imagine your spine is a snake and undulate away. Even a small pelvic tilting motion will activate a basic sex reflex, so rock and roll your booty to enhance your turn-on and increase your climax. Don’t just lie there, vibrate, shimmy, quiver and quake. Rock it and roll it and shake it all around. Let your thrusting animal out and you’ll propel your orgasm sky-high. Pump it up, baby!

4. Flex Your Floor

Inside the bottom of your body lies a hammock of muscles that surround your genitalia and associated organs. Every time you grasp and release these muscles, you’re squeezing, rubbing and fondling your sexy bits. Essentially, you’re playing with yourself without using your hands, which is convenient because during sex your hands are often busy elsewhere.

The pelvic floor muscles also act as a trampoline for sexual energy that ricochets it all around your body, spreading your arousal and magnifying its intensity.

There is no one right way to play with your pelvic floor muscles, so experiment with lots of different actions. Squeeze, pull up, cinch together, flutter, vibrate, push, hold and release them as you see fit. Just get them involved and you’ll heighten your excitement, experience easier arousal, and extend your orgasm.

5. Say Yes!

These first four tips develop skills that primarily utilize the toolkit of your body to enhance your sexuality. This tip uses your mind skills, since that really is your primary sexual organ. Give yourself permission to feel more, do more, explore and go further, deeper and wilder then you ever have. Free your mind and the rest will cum along.

When playing with your new skills, resistance, fear, anxiety along with concerns about impropriety will likely arise. Fend them off by repeatedly giving yourself permission to feel all the pleasure you’re capable of, and to be a wildly free sexual being.

Give yourself permission, over and over, to release, to let go of inhibitions, to push yourself into new territory. Say “Yes” to pleasure, “Yes” to getting wilder, “YES” to going further then you thought you could. When you start to come, don’t let limiting beliefs stop you. Say “Yes” to allowing yourself to keep going — and you will.

6. Solo Personal Practice

You learn through repetition. Like driving a car or playing a musical instrument, you need to practice to get good at any learned skills, including (and perhaps especially) at sex. To experience super sexuality you need to practice until the learning becomes embedded in your body-mind and your responses become automatic. Practice makes access as you lay down a neural groove, a pattern that forms an embodied trail. The more you traverse that path, the easier it gets. And, when you use your breath, sound and movement skills repeatedly, they become natural and effortless. As your abilities become habitual, you become increasingly orgasmically proficient.

As with music making, you need to be proficient with your own equipment before you can play beautiful duets. Solo practice will give you the foundational skills you need to make sex with a partner a gloriously hot collaboration. I encourage you to play your own instrument and become fluent in the language of your sexual self. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t also play and practice with partners, just that you must also cultivate your own abilities, alone, with yourself. So practice, lots and lots! It may not get you to Carnegie Hall, but it will get you where you want to go.

7. Play & Experiment

These tips are based on things that work well for most people, most of the time. And, you are utterly unique. Remember — there is no one right way to have fabulous sex or become mega-orgasmic. There are many paths to expanded sexuality. Don’t get stuck thinking about whether you’re doing it right or wrong. Instead, notice what works and what doesn’t.

Take these ideas into the laboratory of your life and play with them. Do your own experiments and pay attention to what transpires. Try variations on each theme and notice where they take you. Explore and see what arises (or doesn’t). Be your own scientist and observe what happens when you do it one way or another. Discover what works for you and then see if you can expand upon that. Try everything once or better yet, several times and attend to the results. Combine skills and notice if they enhance each other. Be creative and remember to play!

Since sex is something that’s both inherent and learned, you may as well grab hold of yourself and grab this opportunity to develop old skills and learn new ones. Use these tips to explore the hardware of your biological template and learn how to fully use your awesome capacity to re-program the sexy software of your self.

The immediate reward will be evident in your increased pleasure ability. But bigger, better orgasms aren’t the only benefit of becoming a virtuoso of your own sexuality. Orgasmic tsunamis will put a satisfied spring in your step and a radiant smile on your face. When you can easily get aroused by a wide variety of yummy stimuli and have orgasms that last for many minutes at a time, it’s hard to be bummed out. The world really does look better when you’re looking through orgasm-colored glasses. Go ahead, start now. Take matters into your very own hot little hands and remember — practice, practice, practice!

People go through a lot of physical and emotional pain after being diagnosed with cancer. The pain does not easily go away even after treatment. The effects of cancer in our bodies are far reaching. It affects how partners view women as sexual beings. The medics should help a lot in an effort to enhance sexuality after breast cancer. They should counsel the patient’s partner and make them love their women’s body just like before the illness. Breasts are major sexual organs to both women and men. One woman confessed that her breasts had been a playing a major role in her sex life until breast cancer was discovered.

The cancer was in her both breasts but she went through lumpectomy and radiation treatment. Lucky enough her breasts came out looking great. Despite this, her husband acted like they did not exist. She felt so much sexual rejection and would turn down sex all the time. Her husband’s view of her sexuality after cancer had changed. A physician can do a lot to assure the man that cuddling, kissing and fondling the breasts will not in any way harm the breasts. A medic is also better placed to explain that the woman is not radioactive and that he cannot catch cancer. The woman’s explanation might not be trusted but people tend to take doctor’s word as the biblical truth. This will do a lot to enhance sexuality after breast cancer. The former love making habits will soon resume.

To correctly enhance your sexuality after breast cancer stop comparing yourself with others. Most people have wild imaginations about what happens in other people’s bed rooms. Do not be fooled by the televisions, movies and magazines. All that is fiction. Research has revealed that people have much less sex than we imagine. The reported averages shows that people with age ranging from 50 to 60 do it about five times a month. Those with age ranging from 40-50 do it around six times a month while those ones between 30 and 40 age bracket has the highest number being seven times a month. People above 60 years still have sex but the frequency reduces with age.

Jane who is 78 years old says that she stopped being sexually active during breast cancer treatment but they resumed for the action at her own request. Most breast cancer survivors continue to enjoy their sex life even at old age. To enhance sexuality after breast cancer do not let sex myths about other patients block your own happiness. Remember exceptions are there in every special pattern. Talk to your doctor, dispel your fears and you will be able to replace myths with actual facts.

Breast cancer may sadly highlight the problems in your sexual relationship but you can still enjoy your sex life as you contemplate the missing link. To enhance sexuality after breast cancer might be hard but give it a serious thought. You will finally make it. Enrich your sex life with fantasy. Read romantic novels a lot as it has worked for many women. Meet your needs by making birthdays and anniversaries a big deal. This will bring back the happy mood which off course will enhance your sexuality in many ways.

There’s a saying that states a picture is worth a thousand words. If so belly dance photography could fill volume upon volume. Every dance generation had their look that represented the mind frame and issues of their time. Photography can tell us so much about our history and show us how far we have come and how far we still have to go. Either way, women have always had the ability to cause a stir when it comes to posing for photos.
If you look at Mata Hari, she was a woman ahead of her time but she also paid the price for her eccentric and bold behavior. Are we still paying the same price even to this day? If Mata Hari knew her demise would she have continued life as usual? Would any of us today change how we present ourselves if we knew the cost down the line? These questions led me to look at our dance image in photography and how influenced we are by society standards and our own.

For what purpose do we photograph ourselves? Is it empowerment caught forever in a photo or is it a moment where we allow ourselves to be sensual women? An image can provoke many emotions within society. The big question is what responsibility do we have to society to represent an image that is acceptable and respectable. The belly dance costume throughout history has become a symbol portraying us as the seductress or temptress. Let’s look at Salome for example. The chance that she “belly danced” was slim because of the etiquette of her day and dancing like she is portrayed in movies would have ruined her chances for marriage. But history says she belly danced and requested to have John the Baptists head cut off. Belly dance through history became an accessory with
Salome when in fact her dance style would have been more acrobatic. My point is that many artists through out history have painted the famous scene of Salome dancing which ultimately made her a symbol of seduction. So a painting or photograph can be a powerful influence on the minds of society. This can also lead us to contradictions regarding our image. How can we have a respectable image when our legacy is already tainted?

Cleopatra embodies all the elements that most women thrive to achieve. Her name alone can cause the imagination to run wild. Is this not the same reaction we want people to have when they see our photographs? If you look at websites and magazines you will see a variety of photographs of various dancers in sensual poses. A dancer can convey many messages with her body positioning which can lead the viewer to think her message isn’t just sensual but sexual. So photographs are used to get a certain message across to as many viewers as possible. So what happens when our message is portrayed in a well thought out photograph and the end result is not sensual but sexual? Where does sensuality and sexuality cross? The definition of sensuality is; the capacity for enjoying the pleasures of the senses. The definition of sexuality is; the state of being sexual.
So what if the two were combined together than that would mean that we enjoy our sense of being sexual. Is this bad? Cleopatra was aware of her sexual influence and as a woman ruler she used this to her advantage. In our day and age don’t we do the same but in a different way?

Isadora Duncan wrote:

“Virtuous people are simply those who have not been tempted sufficiently, because they live in a vegetative state, or because their purposes are so concentrated in one direction they have not had the leisure to glance around them.”

Isadora Duncan was also ahead of her time because she had many relationships and was an unfortunate drunk in her later years. The one thing I noticed about Isadora Duncan is that her personal life never showed in her photos and she was a true artist to the end (tragic as it was). So in Isadora Duncan’s case, her message was never misunderstood just like with Cleopatra. The difference is one used her sexuality and the other used her sensuality. Either way the image of both women whether it is in paintings or photographs depict images that invoke women from all over the world to try and emulate them. So what this says to me is that we want a little bit of both when we create our photograph image.

Our individual images in photographs are a big part in selling our dance ability to the masses. How do we choose an instructional DVD if we are not familiar with the teacher? The front cover says so much about her ability as a dancer and teacher. So when I worked with my videographer for my first instructional DVD, we decided to use a photograph with me dancing with a color format that would appeal to the eye. The artistry behind creating any image is essential in having a photograph that impacts our target market. So in the end we are selling both our dancing and our image. Both have to appeal to the masses in order for us to be a success.

Joseph Jaworski states:

“We do not describe the world we see, but we see the world we describe.”

How far can any belly dancer push her image and make it acceptable not only for our community but for the outside world? If too much sexuality is shown in a photograph does it affect the way our community sees the dancer? The reason why I am asking is because there can be so much insinuated in a pose. A seductive look can imply something that never crossed the mind of the dancer.
Anyone can make a photograph mean and represent whatever they want it to.
So what a dancer says in a photograph is powerful and can affect many people.

A William Shakespeare quote says it well:

“There’s language in her eye, her cheek, her lip,
Nay, her foot speaks, her wanton spirit looks out
at every joint and motive of the body.”

Society can create a double standard for anything it wants. Is our image as dancers facing this double standard not only from society but from our own community? Back in the 1960’s and 1970’s the LP covers were very provocative especially in regards to the poses of many of the belly dancers. Some of the costumes had slits up the thigh showing only skin and see through skirts and there is even a dancer with no skirt on at all. We don’t dress this way today and costumes of today have a more designer look to them. It’s evident that our fashion sense has changed through out the years but how about our attitude toward provocative poses and skin? As women in a very unique and ancient dance form I feel it is important to show in photography how we have changed through out history. These photographs are “our” lineage and they show the world what and who we are. Perhaps because of issues with self image and the Playboy era we have wanted to say, “We are different”. We don’t have to take our clothes off in photographs to get across that we are sensual and sexual women. On the other hand I myself love photographs that show a part of a leg or shoulder and the back.

As Mae West once said:

“I speak two languages, Body and English.”

So perhaps without knowing it we have taken all of our trials and tribulations as women and found the perfect outlet to express our feelings and thoughts about the world around us. Dance expressed through the body demonstrates those wordless poems that can only be conveyed with emotional and passionate motion.
Photographs that capture these emotions through movement, poses and attitude, than become timeless and a way we make “our” mark on the world.

Agnes De Mille:

“To dance is to be out of yourself, larger, more beautiful, more powerful. This is power, it is glory on earth and it is yours for the taking.”

When I’m on stage I often feel naked because all of me is being expressed through my dance. So my image on stage is many things including the sensual and sexual. Today I have found peace with both therefore my photographs show the viewer the woman that I am and the dance that I represent. Photography shows how comfortable I am with myself. So do we critique photographs by how comfortable or uncomfortable we are with our own body image? It’s only natural to do so. In the end how we view photography says a lot about how we live our lives and feel about ourselves. There is no right or wrong way to view photography. And since your body is a representation of your life impression, photography is what you want it to be. One of my favorite quotes says it well:

Religion says: The body is a sin.
Science says: The body is a machine.
Advertising says: The body is a business.
The Body says: I am a fiesta.
Eduardo Galeano